You Can Be Right Or
You Can Be Married
Love-Based Solutions For Couples

There is only one fight, one conflict, one issue, which couples get locked into: who's right and who's wrong. When you analyze any disagreement, what you find is that the topic is always the same. The variables that get a couple going are endless, from not picking up his/her socks to the frequency of sex. However, as the disagreement progresses, the topic invariably shifts to who is the good guy and/or who is the bad guy.

What is interesting about these "Right Fights" is that they are not about needing to be right, but come from the feeling of being wronged, hurt, or unloved. Couples want to right the wrong they feel, and then get mired in their battles over blame.

The solution is to address the feeling of being hurt or unloved, by connecting as a couple. Our wounds cause us to withdraw, and that is why communication fails. By remaining close, two people are able to discuss their differences, express their pain, and feel more intimate afterwards.

 

Date Night Deck

52 Date Night Cards
& Date Night Journal

Most of the dating ideas you will find on the internet or in books give ideas for different locations or activities to do while on your date. Your Date Night Deck is structured instead around the three styles of attention couples need. Not all of us are the same. And our need for attention also varies from person to person. Some need touch, while others need verbal interaction. Your Date Night Deck will give you ideas on how to bring the special kind of attention your partner needs.

Each week you and your partner will take turns planning a date. When it is your week you will draw a card from the section of the deck that represents your partner's needs; Visual Date, Talking Date, or Touching Date. The card will then instruct you in how to proceed.

You will use your journal to keep notes, write or draw (as some of the date night cards will instruct) and most important of all to keep a log as a keepsake of your relationship building activities.

Xaler and the Dragon
A Relaxation Technique For The Anxious/Fearful Child

Xaler (the word 'relax' spelled backwards) is sent on a journey though the forest of fear to slay a dragon that has been attacking his village. To complete this seemingly impossible task, the wizard teaches his magical song that enables him to relax in the face of the frightening creatures that await him along the way.

By the time you and your child have completed reading Xaler’s tale your child will have been entertained, but much more importantly has relaxed and has learned a way to relax under most circumstances. The unique story is the first of its kind in that it weaves with in the story a progressive relaxation technique; an important coping skill for any child who has fears or anxieties.

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